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Even the cats want you to be happy.

Guys, I am so bummed that I missed out on the Be Happy Link Up Bloghop last week! Lame, what can I say? Life, it got in the way. And it’s bound to happen sometimes. Anyhoo, let me share my happiest moment this week. Sunday morning I was cuddling with my kitties, Tut and Trina, one on each side and I promised them that if they cuddled that I would never complain again. That is how unlikely I thought it was that they would cuddle. Later that day we left to go to the store and they looked like this.

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And when we got home, they looked like this.

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I’m not even kidding. Even my cats want us to be happy and it appears that not complaining is a big part of it.

Since this joyous moment, Tut has been chasing Trina so I am not feeling as obligated to be complaint free but who knows, maybe I started complaining first and he is retaliating. There is really no way to know. I realize that many of you will think I’m crazy, but for my atheist ass, this is as close to a sign from godDESS (if she does exist, I’m betting on a lady) as I get.

The thing is, it is incredibly difficult to stop complaining cold turkey. Seriously, I had no idea but complaining is a serious addiction. I have significantly less to tweet and facebook about. The whole thing has made me realize how haphazard I’ve been about my happiness plan. I’m working on 12 different non-related things at once and doing them all half-assed. Gretchen would not approve, or would she? Maybe it’s my way to BE KRISTIINA. But I think no, I think it me being a little bit lazy.

So I’m writing it down, I’m making a commitment right now to come up with a real plan to follow over the next 12 months. It will be hard to focus on one area a month but I’m going to make my ADHD calm the eff down.

So friends who are better at planning stuff out than me, throw me some advice in the comments. And while you are at it, be happy link up.

PS One more thing to think about… is saying something like “my back hurts” complaining? Or is it just stating a fact? Discuss.

 

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  • Michelle jadaa October 25, 2012, 5:42 AM

    I think complaining is when you make something seem bigger than it is not when you are talking facts .I mean life is full of good and bad right.I know im trying to stay more positive as life is so short we have to enjoy the little things :)

  • Jenna October 25, 2012, 10:50 AM

    I love this post! I’m so happy for you. I am currently dealing with some crazy cat issues myself. Mickey literally attacked my leg last night while I was holding Pepper because he wanted to fight Pepper. If they start snuggling, let alone, stop fighting (!), I will be the happiest person alive. But you are so right- complaining just seems to come so easily to most of us. I kind of made it a week without complaining, with LJ, actually. It was part of our 101. Then I tried to do it for a month and failed miserably. But at least I was aware of the fact that I was complaining. And I got some of my coworkers on board too. And we had many discussions about whether or not it is a complaint or a statement of fact to say, ‘my back hurts’, or similar. I think it can be either. If you just absent mindedly say it, then I think it is a complaint. But if you say, ‘my back hurts so I’m going to go take a salt bath and take some advil’ then it is a statement of fact and you are also doing something about the issue rather than just complaining. BTW, so glad you got me hooked into this linkup and the book too! I’m about half way through. Looking forward to finishing it and thinking about a happiness plan of action for myself.

    • mskristiina October 25, 2012, 12:36 PM

      I am so happy that you are going to be blogging again!!! In regards to cats not getting along, last night after I wrote this post I realized that my feliway diffuser was empty, so I think I need to refill it and see how they do. So I guess Tut didn’t start chasing Trina again because I slipped up in my complaining! But, we also might want to check out this book Cat Vs. Cat, it’s next on my reading list. http://www.amazon.com/Cat-Vs-Keeping-Peace-When/dp/0142004758/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1351189890&sr=1-1&keywords=pam+johnson-bennett

      I was thinking I need to resurrect the 101 because I feel like it could incorporate well into my happiness project, it can be a part of my plan!

      I think you are right about the difference of complaining and talking about what you are doing to fix the problem. That is going to make my not complaining easier. Maybe I will start with a week and see how I do, at least I can make it so it’s something I do a lot less.

      Thank you so much for your comment and for always being supportive of my blog facebook page, it means so much to me! I wish I could like every single one of your likes.

  • Christie Jones October 25, 2012, 2:41 PM

    Listen, it was wicked hard to nail things down. The whole time I thought – but what if I don’t wanna do that, or what if I get bored – but it made it a lot easier to follow. :)
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  • Erin October 26, 2012, 12:20 PM

    Kristiina!! I love this so much. I totally look for signs all the time – “well if I should do x or y, then such and such will happen right now…” Haha. Kudos to you for making a commitment to stop complaining!! Omigosh, it’s tough. It’s a daily effort for me to focus on the positive things that happen and let go of the negative stuff… but, ya know, it’s worth every bit of effort. Like everything, it just takes practice. And Gretchen would be so proud of you :)
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  • Cham January 4, 2013, 1:50 AM

    Ooohhh kitties! I also have one and I run around the house while she does the chasing… that is until she gets bored. Haha

    Coincidentally, this comment I’m writing and posting on your blog will be my last Tab for the day. I’m feeling a bit melancholy and uninspired and so I need to “unplug” from the Web, at least for today… Perhaps, I’ll come up with my own 2013 Plans too…

    Happy SITS Day! :)

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